4. The Risks and Realities of Sharing

Sharing your story can be freeing, meaningful, and life-changing—but it’s not without risk. While most people will commend your courage, there may be moments when the response you get isn’t what you expected. That doesn’t mean you did the wrong thing. It just means the world is still learning how to respond to vulnerability.

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Unexpected Reactions

Most people will offer support, kindness, and even admiration when you share something deeply personal. But not everyone will understand. Some people might not know how to respond—or might say nothing at all. This can feel confusing or hurtful, but it’s important to remember: people can only hear your story through their own filter. Their reactions are shaped by their own beliefs, upbringing, and experiences—not by the truth or worth of what you’ve shared.

Being in a grounded, stable headspace before sharing helps you stay connected to your truth, even if others don’t know how to meet you in it.

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Trolling or Judgment

In rare cases, particularly in public or online spaces, you may encounter harsh responses, judgment, or even trolling. This kind of criticism can be deeply hurtful, especially when it comes from strangers. That’s why it’s important to have protective practices in place—boundaries, support systems, and a clear sense of your own self-worth—so that if something hurtful happens, you’re not alone in dealing with it.

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Workplace Implications

One of the most common concerns about sharing a mental health story is how it might affect your job. Will your employer treat you differently? Will it change how colleagues perceive you? These are valid questions. While many countries have laws that protect against mental health discrimination, stigma still exists in some workplaces.

It’s okay to be cautious. Think about the nature of your role, the culture of your organisation, and how much you feel safe disclosing. If you're unsure, it may help to test the waters privately with a trusted colleague or HR representative before sharing more broadly.

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Stagnation and Over-Identification

Another lesser-known risk of storytelling is the possibility of becoming too attached to your story. If we repeat it too often, or use it as our primary identity, we can unintentionally stay tethered to a version of ourselves that no longer reflects who we are becoming.

Your story is a chapter—not the whole book.

To stay balanced, it helps to have a strong identity outside your mental health journey—through your hobbies, relationships, career, and values. These are reminders that while your story is valid and important, it’s not the only thing that defines you.

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Finding Balance

Sharing is powerful. But so is protecting your energy. Make sure you’re in a place where you can hold both the rewards and risks of storytelling. Set boundaries. Build support. And always come back to your “why.”

Because this isn’t about exposure. It’s about healing, connection, and truth—shared on your terms.